Meaning-Making, Beliefs and Attachment Styles

Our human gene is activated by meaning. With beauty, aww and love opening us up as human-beings. Whereas fear, disgust or violation of our safety or respect closes us down, or triggers us into a threat response. We are constantly meaning-making as human beings: this is how we understand, or make sense of our relationships, experiences and life events, and self.

When we are with people we love, our friends, or close work colleagues we open when we feel inspired. To be attracted to and truly love another romantically opens us up probably more fully than any other life experience.

Integrity is attractive, whereas a lack of integrity is not. The opposite of integrity on an emotional level is not just fear – it is more descriptively: disgust, or violation of a person’s sense of safety or respect. We are biologically built for mutual respect as human-beings.

Often when working with clients we need to take into account what meaning-making a client has taken on to determine their belief systems and attachment style. When we are children we make sense of the world through interpretation and our experiences with people: conversations, events and even objects form our meanings. This process of learning carries on throughout life but the majority of our meaning-making is set up in the first 5-years of our life.

As a professional, credentialed coach has your client formed any limiting beliefs that they need to change? Are their current meanings truly beneficial to their life? For example, I don’t have enough time or I am stressed. We need to explore our clients’ belief systems and attachment style that has been established usually as a child or via major life events.Are your clients belief systems or attachment style creating a state of constant stress, or assisting them to achieve a state of self-regulation?

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